Learning To Pole Dance is Learning to Take Up Space

Learning To Pole Dance is Learning to Take Up Space

Four years into my pole dance journey and it’s hard to remember why I was ever nervous about pole dancing to begin with.

I mean I get nervous about doing specific tricks, namely ones that I might fall on my face while attempting it. I do stress about not poling enough, worry about not being good enough or working hard enough. I get butterflies for performances, etc, but that whole thing many new polers experience about being too scared to take their first class, I don’t remember that. I don’t think I took much convincing either to take my first class, my friend did it, she suggested it to me, and I gave it a shot, end of story…sorta.

Finding Pole Love in New York

Finding Pole Love in New York

With everyone posting nonstop about the latest pole trick, their pole successes and failures, their hours of pole practice, and future pole goals, it can seem like all anyone does is train 24/7. Maybe they do…but I can’t. I love pole, sincerely, fully, with all my heart, but I can’t do it all the time and it can’t be my entire life. I need breaks from it to miss it. I need to live outside the pole bubble to put the pole world into perspective. Otherwise I worry one day I’ll just go crazy and pack up my stilettos for good.

Is the Pole Community Actually Inclusive If Pole Wear Isn’t?

Is the Pole Community Actually Inclusive If Pole Wear Isn’t?

No company has a “No fatties allowed!” sign posted on their website, no pole wear company says one body is the “right” body, one shape is the “right” shape. But it can feel that way. Especially in the pole community, that often toots it horn about how inclusive and empowering it is. “The pole community welcomes everyone!” we cheer! But does it if so many people are excluded from wearing the pole uniform?

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